CO-PARENTING: COMMUNICATING FOR RESULTS – C4R
Taught by Dr. Shendl Tuchman
Written by Dr. Kate Regan
Two 5-Week Courses
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Once we have enough people whose schedules are compatible, a new start date will be scheduled.
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Co-Parenting: Communicating for Results is comprised of two 5-week experiential courses for parents who want to develop more effective communication skills and be better able to problem solve with former partners. You will learn how deeply-rooted beliefs may impede your ability to be productive co-parents, gain an understanding of how to reduce the conflict in highly emotional conversations and practice staying focused on child centered objectives when conversations become heated and personal.
We will practice these communication skills in the context of common co-parenting experiences. You will explore common communication patterns between you and your co-parent while learning how to transform them into more positive interactions in the future.
This course will help you:
- keep your children out of the middle of your divorce so you do not feel you have lost your family
- negotiate agreements that are child-focused
- have effective, planned, co-parenting conversations
- retain the recognition of yourself as a loving, supportive human being in your post-divorce family
In the first five-week segment (Part I), you will learn six essential skills for surviving highly emotional conversations that may catch you by surprise. You will learn how to:
- recognize your current, habitual patterns of communication
- challenge and change your stories about the other parent
- deepen your understanding and management of your emotional responses
- manage your ego instead of blaming the other parent
- understand how you use and abuse power and authority in a relationship
- listen as an act of being present
- become curious when you believe you already know the answer
- ask questions to confirm your understanding of what is being communicated before you respond
In the second five-week segment (Part II), you will learn skills to help you prepare for planned conversations—those conversations you have time to prepare for. You will learn how to:
- establish a clear goal for a conversation
- talk to your co-parent about the relationship between the outcome you are both trying to achieve for your child and the action you are requesting
- help your co-parent see the value in the action you are requesting
- recognize and respond appropriately when a co-parent may not have the skills or resources to carry out a request
- recognize the role you are playing in keeping a predictable communication pattern in place
- change your role in predictable patterns so the “dance” you do with your co-parent can re-shape itself.
Week 1 Challenge My Story
Week 2 Manage My Ego
Week 3 Working with Rank (Power and Authority)
Week 4 Listen, Be Curious and WAV (Witness, Articulate, Validate)
Week 5 Practice, Practice, Practice!
Week 6 Understanding Motivation & Preparing for a Tough Conversation
Week 7 Educate, Build Value, Ask About Success
Week 8 Working with Unmet Agreements
Week 9 Change the Dance
Week 10 Practicing and Maintaining Your New Skills
The sessions are two hours in length. Depending on when the course starts, we will try to meet weekly, to provide maximum benefit when trying to learn new skills. You will have the opportunity to experiment outside the classroom and discuss your experiences at the following course meeting.
You may take Part I without also taking Part II, however, you cannot take Part II unless you have taken Part I.
We ask that co-parents not take the course together. C4R is able to provide an environment that fosters improving communication for co-parents by working on your own communication skills. You will be with other parents who are working on many of the same issues.
At this time, the class is limited to 8 participants.
Workbook and Homework
You will be provided with a workbook that incudes background reading, reflective questions and homework to be completed before the next class. It includes suggestions for practicing your new skills between classes.
Registration and Fees
C4R is a good investment. While there is a range of fees associated with attending Co-Parenting Therapy, the hourly cost for C4R is $49, significantly less than Co-Parenting Therapy would be. For some, this could mean you do not need to attend Co-Parenting Therapy, for others, it could greatly reduce the length of time you may need to attend.
At this time, it is only possible to register for Part I. Part II will be available for registration after Part I has started.
Registration Fee for each Part is $489.
Certificate of Completion
At the conclusion of both Part I and Part II, you will be provided with a Certificate of Completion. All classes must be attended in order to receive the certificate. You can bring this to court (currently Alameda County), indicating you have successfully completed either one or both parts of the course. Those who attend both Part I and Part II, will receive two separate certificates.
1. How can I contact the organizer with any questions?
Dr. Tuchman’s contact Info:
2. What is the refund policy?
Refunds are available, if requested, two weeks before the start of the course.
3. To Register, go to:
This course is not open for registration at this time. If you are interested in participating in future classes, please send an email to email@example.com.