Part I – Unplanned Conversations

April 14, 2019

May 18, 2019

Specific information about the course follows: Co-Parenting: Communicating for Results (C4R) – Unplanned Conversations, is the first of two, day-long, experiential/skill-building courses. I am pleased to bring Dr. Kate Regan to the Bay Area.  Dr. Regan developed C4R to help corporations improve their communications, focusing on difficult conversations.  The course was very well-received.  She was given feedback from the participants saying it improved their communications at work and, more importantly, made a difference in their lives outside of work, most specifically in their personal relationships.  While we maintained the theoretical framing, we rewrote the course to be about the needs of co-parents and their difficult conversations.  It is designed to help them develop more effective communication skills and be better able to problem-solve with their former partners. Part I addresses the skills needed to have Unplanned Conversations. Part II addresses the skills needed to have Planned Conversations. Each part will be taught for a full day (9am to 5pm). Participants may take Part I on any of the three scheduled dates. After they have completed Part I, they will be invited to take Part II. Building in time between Parts I and II provides an opportunity to practice new skills. Should Part I participants also take Part II (which we recommend), they will be able to discuss their experiences at that time as well as during coaching sessions scheduled periodically. New skills become rooted in habit only when they are practiced, observed, critiqued, coached, and practiced again. This course has been developed not only to provide information about effective communication practices, but to also create a community of practice within which to develop new skills. Program Agenda for Part I:

  1. Challenge My Story
  2. Manage My Ego
  3. Working with Rank (Power and Authority)
  4. Listen, Be Curious and WAV (Witness, Articulate, Validate)

Program Agenda for Part II:

  1. Understanding Motivation and Preparing for a Tough Conversation
  2. Creating Motivation for Commitment to Action
  3. Working with Unmet Agreements
  4. Change the Dance
  5. Practicing and Maintaining Your New Skills

Participation Co-parents may not take the course together. New communication patterns between former partners develop even when only one of the parents changes the way they communicate. Attendees will work with other parents who are working on many of the same issues. Class Size At this time, the class is limited to 8 participants. There will be a Waiting List if the course fills up. Location The course will take place at: 1425 Leimert Blvd., 4th Floor, in Oakland Registration and Fees – The course will not be offered again after May until Fall 2019 Sunday, April 14, 2019

$315 (before March 27th)

$365 (after March 27th)

Saturday, May 18, 2019 course $315 (before April 30th) $365 (after April 30th) Group Coaching Sessions Group coaching sessions will be offered periodically to aid in practicing new skills and providing a place to ask questions and build connection among a community of parents working to improve their co-parenting relationships. $50/per person for each session Seminar Schedule 9am-5pm (There will be an hour break for lunch. Lunch is not provided) Coffee, tea and snacks will be available. Refunds Refunds are available, if requested, two weeks before the start of the course, less a $50 administrative fee. Certificate of Completion Participants will be provided with a Certificate of Completion. Both classes must be attended to receive the certificate. Parents may bring the certificate to court, indicating they have successfully completed the course. Participants may register by clicking the following link:

We hope you will take full advantage of this resource!

Should you have any questions, please contact me at: 


Shendl Tuchman, Psy.D.

At this time, all appointments are through Zoom. Serving Alameda, Contra Costa and Sonoma counties.




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